Premature ejaculation can be one of the most frustrating things that a man can go through. It can take a major hit on your confidence and make sex miserable for both you and your partner. However, you need to keep in mind that as frustrating and depressing this problem seems, it is a very common thing and many men have had it too, at some point or the other in their lives. Easier said than done, but you might need to do something in order to up your game again.
From research it was found that the average time for a man to ejaculate during sex is 5.4 minutes. If you ejaculate in less than a minute, no matter how much you try to delay it, you might have a problem to fix.
With these tips, you can help boost up your sex life:
1) Mastering your mini orgasms
What are those? Taking yourself close to the point of ejaculation but then stopping. You should begin by practising this during masturbation. Male orgasms usually comprise of two distinguishable phases: the emission, where semen gets collected and loaded into the urethra and ejaculation where it gets expelled from there. Your goal should be to reach and maintain the emission phase for a while before ejaculating and let yourself experience some pelvic contractions without allowing full ejaculation. This is what a mini orgasm is all about. It serves as a release valve which eases the tension that is built up in your penis and allows you to take things slow. It takes quite a lot of practice to apply this during intercourse, but practice is what makes one perfect.
2) Let your penis be a sex toy
In order to last longer, you might want to avoid too much penetration and that is where perpendicular sex positions come to the rescue. They provide clitoral stimulation, which is good for your partner, while helping you hold off your climax. Choose a side by side position where you and your partner face each other, creating a right angle between her vulva and your shaft. Now instead of going for penetration, try pressing the length of your shaft against her clitoris in a back and forth rubbing motion. This helps create a sex toy out of the top of your penis, and this helps hold off as the top of the penis is less sensitive than the underside. As you continue moving in this manner and she starts to get close, you can switch to a position with more stimulation for yourself as well. You can try pressing down on her G-spot using your penis. If you’re lucky she might climax before you do, and you will be following her in a matter of minutes.
3) Popping a pill
If nothing works, there is always medicine. There are some antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) like Prozac, Paxil and Zoloft which might help your case. One of the side effects from this could be a delayed ejaculation.
From research it was found that when people suffering from premature ejaculation used a SSRI before having sex, they were able to last four to five times longer than their usual. However, before taking up any medication, you would want to first consult a doctor and ensure that the drug you take suits you.
4) Using a delaying spray
You can try using a numbing spray containing lidocaine that can be purchased over the counter. According to studies, around 74 percent people using delaying sprays were able to last two minutes longer. You want to use just two or three squirts of it so that it does not leave either of you numb after sex. You can begin by using it while masturbating and finding out how much amount works best for you.
5) Working out
You can try working out the PC muscles present at the floor of your pelvic region. To get an idea of how it feels like to flex those muscles, the next time you urinate, try cutting off your flow in between, then letting it flow, then cutting off again, and so on. You can also try standing in front of a mirror and trying to lift your penis without using your hands in order to get those muscles fired up. Once you get the feel of it, try tightening them and holding down for 10 seconds and then easing up. Repeat this 10 times. The best part about this exercise is that you can perform it anywhere. It was found from studies that 75 percent of men doing kegel exercises reported an improvement in their ejaculatory time span.
6) Switching positions
Instead of sticking to one particular pose, try spicing things up and helping delay yourself by switching between different positions in the middle of one session. It also works as a great way to pause on your way and get things back in control. You can also try delaying your orgasm by indulging in tricky or tiring positions as you would be less likely to come while your brain is focused on doing it right. You would want to stay clear of the doggy style, which provides the perfect combination for climax: going fast and deep. Having your partner on the top would definitely be a good idea as she can take charge of the depth and rhythm and help you figure out the combination that is just right.
You can also try squeezing the head of your penis when you feel yourself edging close to an orgasm. You can achieve this by applying a firm pressure on your urethra using your thumb and forefinger. This helps momentarily decrease the sexual tension in your penis by pushing the blood out of it and as a result holds back on the ejaculatory response. You can even go ahead and help your partner have an orgasm so that it relieves some of your mental pressure and you can get her there based solely on oral stimulation.
However, if nothing seems to work, feel free to consult a doctor to get an idea of what you are dealing with and find a solution for it.